For Kids and Parents
JUST FOR KIDS AND PARENTS.
Telling vs. Tattling
Very simplying if it is hurting someone it is TELLING.
Adults should not discourage children from telling them about injustices they see around them. Thank them for telling you. As an adult you can decide if action is needed. This is true both at home and in the school setting.
When a student tells an adult that she/he is experiencing bullying/peer mistreatment it is usually because they have tried solutions that have failed to stop bullying.
In New Hampshire, The Safe Pupil law or RSA 193-F, requires schools to investigate reported incidences of bullying. Goto "Current Law " page for the complete law.
If you child tells you she/he is being bullied, or harassed at school remain calm. This is important for your child to see that you are in control. Record the details from your child, where, when, and who.
Notify the Adult at school who is responsible for taking reports of bullying, usually the principal or vice principal. Ask for an appointment to discuss the situation, remember to bring NH law RSA 193-F and the school policy on bullying.
Remain calm when you discuss the situation with the school administration, even though you may be very angry that this is happening to your child and you may feel the administration has failed to protect your child.
Be certain to record your conversations with school adminstration. Important if legal action is required.
Ask for an action plan to protect you child from further bullying. Maintain an atmosphere of partnership with the school. If the bullying continues seek an appointment with the superintendent. If it still continues the district school board is the next step. If this fails you should contact the NHDOE and/or legal counsel.
Parents contact us if you need support for a child that is being bullying at school.
Also check Signs of Bullying page if you suspect your child is a target of bullying, harassment/peer mistreatment.
